You’ve mastered every space.
Except the one what matters most.
You’ve worked hard.
Now, you’reent years becoming someone exceptional. Rigorous, driven, reliable. Someone who shows up and delivers. You do things. You crush it.
You’re genuinely ready for a deeper connection.
With yourself first, then everything else will follow.
Because deep connection doesn’t reward optimization. It doesn’t care about what you do, your track record. But it does care about who you are, and it asks you to be present, and open amidst uncertainty.
Philosophy - if you’re not connected to yourself, it’s challenging to connect with others at a deep level. Inner conditions.
The topics themselves are not too heavy. People are genuinely hungry for this. The Asian diaspora audience especially — they've spent their whole lives being told to push through, not feel, not need. When someone finally names that experience, it hits hard. That's not a burden, that's a relief.
The risk is in the framing. Heavy becomes a problem when it feels like:
Therapy homework ("unpack your childhood trauma")
Guilt or shame ("you've been living wrong")
Navel-gazing with no payoff ("let's just sit in the pain together")
What keeps it from going there is exactly the Moth formula you chose — because Moth stories don't wallow. They move. There's always a turn, always a landing, always something the audience walks away carrying that makes them feel more capable, not more burdened.
The other thing working in your favor is the contrast between your content and your product. Pilates, floral arrangement, slow dating — these are tactile, joyful, present-moment experiences. The heavy reflection in the content makes people want the lightness of the offline experience. One feeds the other.
The real question to stay close to is: does each piece of content end with someone feeling more alive, more seen, or more capable — or does it end with them feeling worse?
If it's the former, the depth is a feature. That's what builds a movement.
Slllo coaching is for high-achievers who are exceptional at nearly everything. But feel stuck quietly, and persistently when it comes building deep, lasting connections.
Nothing is wrong with you. You simply never explored and learned who you are outside of your professional identity.
This is the space where that changes, and your confidence expands.
For the person who has built a beautiful life and is ready to share it.
You’re intentional, and genuinly ready, not performing readiness, actually feeling it. You’re seeing patterns that hold you back.
You want connections that feels safe, and you’re ready to do the real work to get there. You’re ready to understand yourself more deeply, and trust that everything else follows from that.
Slllo Coaching isn’t about sharing tips and tricks about relationships. We start with who are you are when no one is watching, who you want to become for yourself, and how you want to show up for the people around you.
Our work draws from neuroscience, attachment theory, somatic awareness, and the SCALES framework by cofounder Alice Young.
People-First Approach
Everything we do is built around understanding your needs and helping you succeed—because when you thrive, so do we.
The Unavailability You Can’t See
You’re not closed off intentionally. But somewhere along the way, staying busy became staying safe. Depth requires slowness. And slowness has always felt like falling behind.
The Identity Gap
Strip away the title, the accomplishments, the curated life, and who are you? This is the most important question you’ll ever answer. And it’s the one your dating life is quietly asking you to sit with.
The Confident Contradiction
You’re confident in many contexts. But in deep relationships, platonic or romantic, that requires vulnerability, something contracts. The very competence that grounds you everywhere else leaves you with no footing here.
Our Focus
01 | Know Yourself
Build the relational identity you were never taught to develop.
Who am I, really — underneath the conditioning?
We start by mapping who you are outside of your current identity. Most high-achievers have never done this work. It’s foundational to everything else.Self Talk
Narration - How do you share your story
The version of you your parents needed vs. who you actually are
Understanding your attachment style
Identifying your communication style
What your body is trying to tell you (that you've been ignoring)
The beliefs you inherited vs. the ones you actually chose
Why you react the way you do in conflict
Recognizing your emotional triggers
The difference between your values and your programming
02 | Manage Yourself
Stop the self-sabotaging in the moments that matter most.
Now that I see myself clearly, how do I work with that?
The moments that derail relationships are almost never logical. They’re nervous system events, moments where old patterns fire faster than you conscious mind can intervene. We build the somatic and emotional tools to recognize these moments, stay present through them, and respond from your values instead of your history. Building new habits
Unlearning Outdated Scripts
Breaking the doom scroll loop — through identity, not willpower
How to journal when you don't know where to start
Regulating your nervous system without numbing out
Eating and moving from a place of care, not punishment
Setting boundaries when you were raised to put others first
Rest as a practice, not a reward
Sitting with discomfort instead of fixing it immediately
Building routines that actually fit your real life
03 | Express Yourself
Let people actually meet you.
How do I show up — in relationships, in the world, as myself?
Confidence in relationships isn’t about being impressive. It’s about being legible, letting the right person actually see who you are, what you want, and what you have to offer. This phase is about developing the relaitonship fluency to show up authentically, consistently, and without the armor taht’s been protecting you at the cost of connection. Communication
Confidence
Conflict Resolution - leading hard conversations
Saying “No” Setting Boundaries
Building the life you want
How to say what you need when you were never taught that it's okay to need
Intentional dating — showing up as yourself, not your representative
The friendships that quietly drain you (and what to do about it)
Reinventing your identity without losing your roots
Building a life that feels like yours — not your parents', not Instagram's
How to be in community without performing wellness
Learning to receive — love, help, rest, compliments
Telling your own story on your own terms
Meet Alice
不着急，慢慢来
I’m Korean American born and raised in the U.S. But I had the opportunity to live and work in Beijing, China.
I recall my Chinese colleagues telling me to “don’t rush, be patient, it’ll happen”.
I was always in a rush to hit the next milestone, to get the most of my experience, for growth, to fix things, etc.
But I didn’t internalize it, I kept pushing things forward, fast, hustle. I pushed through moving to a new country through curiosity and opportunity, but enduring through because of ambition, living in dream cities, New York, making things happen with a clear goal.
Curiosity took a big part, but part of that drive came from the expectation to do more than what your parents were able to do, to be part of transformation and fueling energy, environments that felt like sprints than a marathon to where the outward pace matched the speed of ambition.
That didn’t stop there, choosing to be in startups, where things happen fast, through successes, failures, where you compress time into days but hours, and minutes, and make the most of it.
Therapist commented on how driven by the scarcity of time, I become creative in my processes.
Through the exposure, lessons, a thread that stayed was growth is great, but growth that’s paced, savored, is savored.
This marked the fusion of Eastern and Western influence.
Turning point was a European friend commenting, “Alice, you live to work. I work to live.”
That’s when I turned my attention to “living”.
Living meant to be intentional - in how I spend my time.
And it’s one of the best things that happened, because it gave me an opportunity to pause, reflect, and recalibrate.
At a startup undergoing challenges, she had her first exposure to Executive Coaching, and pursued it ever since.
Coaching to her is personal, as the CEO being the loneliest she’s witness through her father a self-made man, but also felt this through her ventures and taking unconventional, less trodden paths, but also see startup culture prosper or undergo toxicity depending on the leadership.
Her methodology SCALES and coaching style is driven from the western +eastern lens, and lived experiences of multiple cultures, undergoing fast-paced change of startups, and also a results based approach informed by her time developing technology as a product manager.
Hi, I’m Alice. Cofounder of Slllo. I know what it’s like to be deeply self-aware, to do the work, to recognize my patters.
I know the particular loneliness of succeeding in public and struggling in private. And I know the specific kind of tired that comes from performing capability in a domain that’s asking you to just be.
My coaching draws on neuroscience, attachement theory, and somatic practice, alongside lived experience navigating love, identity, and belonging acruss cultures, transitions and reinvestions. I lived in many cities, rebuilt myself more than once, and I understand what it costs to keep achieving while soemthing deeper is asking to be tneded.
I offer a mirror held steadily, a framework for understanding what’s actually happening beneath your hood, and a container safe enough to let the real work happen.
Slllo exists because slow connection with yourself, and with others is the only kind that lasts. And because the most important relationships you’ll ever have - with yourself - shapes every other one.
Client Reviews
“I came in thinking I needed help with dating strategy. What I actually needed was someone to help me figure out who I was when I wasn’t being impressive. Alice held that space without judgement and without rushing me. Six months later, I’m in the healthiest relationship of my life, and the work was almost entirely internal.”
Director of Ops, 24
What becomes possible when you stop performing and start arriving?
“I’d done years of therapy and still kept ending up in the same dynamic. Alice’s coaching was different because it wasn’t just about insight, it was about learning to feel different in my body when those old patterns starting firing. That was the missing piece”
“The cohort experience was unlike any group I’ve been part of. It wasn’t a class. It was a community of people doing real work, in real time, together. I found my person three months after it ended, but more importantly, I found myself during it.”
Two ways in. One Destination.
A fully personalized coaching engagement for the high-achiever who’s ready to do the work in a private, confidential container. We work at the pace your nervous system can integrate, which is often faster than you expect, when the right conditions are in place.
Sessions are built around your specific patterns, your relationship history, and the particular flavor of stuck that keeps showing up. Just the work, done carefully, at depth.
Engagement runs 3 months. Includes bi-weekly 1:1 sessions, between session voice note support and personalized tools and practices.
Best for: people who want a fully private, high-touch experience and are ready to move with intention.
A structured multi-week program for a small cohort of high-achieving singles navigating the same terrain. Built around the three-phase methodology - Know Yourself, Manage Yourself, and Express Yourself, with weekly group sessions, community between calls, and Alice guiding the arc.
The cohort in intentionally small. The work is real. And something happens in a room full of people who are all willing to go there together that no 1:1 container can replicate, a specific kind of permission that makes the hard work feel lighter.
Cohort runs 8 weeks.
Includes weekly live sessions, a private community space, reflection practices, and optional 1:1 integration sessions with Alice.
Best for: people who want community alongside the coaching, and are energized by learning alongside others in a similar season of life.
Two ways in. One destination.
Whether you work with Alice privately, or inside a cohort, the foundation is the same: know yourself more deeply, regulate yourself more skilfully, and let people actually meet you. Everything else, the right relationship, the real confidence, and sense of coming home to yourself, follows from that.
The deep connection you want begins with the one you have with yourself.
This isn’t about becoming more attractive, more interesting, or more dateable. It’s about becoming more you, and trusting that the right person will recognize that without any performance required.
You have already done the hard work of building a life. This is the work of learning to inhabit it fully. To stop outsourcing your sense of self to what you’ve accomplished and start grounding it in who you actually are.
That’s the quiet work. Slow work. And it’s the only one that lasts.